I spend my days writing, blogging, helping individuals and businesses strategize and optimize content, and ghost writing. These are a few of the projects I’ve been a part of.
Back to Allen (where you are now) is my personal blog. I write about my life as a single mom, which means I talk about parenting, cooking, being a mom to boys, being a mom to a girl, parenting tweens, parenting teens, sending my son off to college, being a daughter, being an estranged daughter, and a little bit of everything in between. I share books I’ve read, products I’ve tried and friends I’ve made through this online life.
Single Mom Travels is also a personal blog, but its specific focus is on travel. I promised my daughter that when she graduates from high school, we’d take our dream trip to Italy. My budget is is skeptical, but my morale is high. In the meantime, I refuse to believe that just because we can’t afford to jet off to Paris or Tuscany or Bali we can’t explore places decidedly closer to home. The posts here will likely be Kansas City and Midwest focused, but as our opportunities grow so will the site.
LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER
I was honored to be in the inaugural cast of the Kansas City Listen to Your Mother show, and to be both a Co-Director and in the cast of the 2014 Kansas City show. If you’re not familiar with Listen to Your Mother, you can learn more about Ann Imig and how she started the live reading series that, in her words, gives Mothers Day a voice.
On May 11, 2013, I read my piece, titled ‘The 180 Factor’ to a full room at Unity Plaza on the Temple. Thanks to Buck Sommercamp, the videos are now live on the Listen to Your Mother YouTube channel.
I’m sharing it here not because I like seeing myself on video. I don’t. I’m also not sharing it here because I want to dwell on the past. People might say–have said–that no parent is perfect, and that people change. I know that to be true. I can’t vouch for whether or not my mother has changed from the mother I remember, but I sure hope she has. My piece wasn’t an attempt to condemn or judge her, and if we’re being honest, wasn’t about her at all. It’s about me, how I heard her words and how I choose to talk to my children differently.
I am the mother I am because of every influence in my life. The good, the bad, my father, my mother and countless other influences that have marked me in one way or another. I hope I’m a good mother, but I’m not perfect. Not even close. As I’ve grown older, I think I understand a bit more about who my mother is as a person but I’m wise enough to know I’ll never truly understand her, because I’ve never walked in her shoes. What I know is that it’s my choice how to act as an adult–as a mother–and that the words we use with our children leave a legacy that will shape their own views of themselves and the world. I do my best, everyday, to practice discretion, compassion and intention.
On May 3, 2014, Unity Temple hosted the second Listen To Your Mother: Kansas City show. I was honored to be a Co-Director, and to help assemble a group of 13 other incredible women to share their stories. You can see the entire show, in order, here.
The essay I shared, Three Little Letters, was about my dad and how he stepped into the role of ‘mother’ after my parents divorced.
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Just a Mom
Kansas Women Bloggers:
A Mother’s Voice is Powerful
Memoirs of Single Dad:
Balancing Social and Home Life
Live Grow Do
Travel as a Single Mom
Nominated Best Single Parent Blog Parenting Magazine 2011